My Wife Wants A Garden The Size Of. A Swimming Pool
Sometimes life doesn’t work how we want it it to. Especially right now during COVID 19. When I was “figuring it out” myself wife was calling her dad … Thankfully.
My wife has been planning a garden and so she asked me to prep it. She’s from Nebraska … so it’s going to be a big garden. (Think swimming pool size …)
My wife wants a garden, so after a week of praying that she would change her mind, I got on board when she had a friend drop off his tiller. Here are my steps:
Step 1: Get out the mower for the inaugural mow of the season
Result: The belt popped off the mower 3 times. The swimming pool area is mowed, but that’s it…
Step 2: Learn to use the tiller my buddy dropped off
Result: The ground still looks like I mowed … She called her dad who shared that there is a setting to adjust the tiller depth. Try #2 is coming tonight. On a positive note, I introduced my 14-year-old son to a pick ax as secondary option to tilling and gaining man muscles.
Step 3: Visit an essential business
Result: Supporting the local economy
Am I frustrated? Yes. Today was the day it was going to happen. We fired up the Hustler and 90 seconds later the belt popped off. We put the belt back on. 64.2 seconds later the belt popped off.
Today was not much different than any other day during the past few weeks. Goals, ideas, and strategies are interrupted by something unplanned and frustrating.
We’re tired of it. What should take one hour is taking 4 hours and two nights.
I’m not sure how to avoid the gardening frustration (unless I knew how to use a tiller…)
However, I do know how we can make sure that the daily interruptions and frustrations don’t get the best of us. The mower will be fixed. The garden bed will be tilled. The goal will be accomplished. Life will go on.
You see - Meg (my wife) has a clear vision for the garden of what goes where and family and friends enlisted to help with it. So, I’m in. I love the idea. No matter what happens, we will adjust and overcome because I share in the vision.
We can’t avoid daily interruptions and uncertainty getting in the way, but when we have a clear shared vision (that is more than a trite statement), we can overcome and continue on. That’s the key…having a clear shared vision with clear priorities. We need to know and be committed to the daily steps that are necessary to move forward towards the dream.
When we have a clear vision, with clear direction, we can rest. We call it Finding The Eddy.
If you are tired of uncertainty and disruption getting in the way of your vision, change it up. Find The Eddy. Join our coaching group that begins April 15th and we will get there together.
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Winston Churchill wore this shirt when giving his famous speech. Bill Gates wore this shirt when he dreamed up Microsoft. Bezos wore this shirt when he dreamed up Amazon. Michael Jordan wore this shirt under this Bulls Jersey. You get the point. This shirt is the catalyst for great leadership decisions. We could all use help in that area of life right now. Buy the shirt. Find the Eddy. and thank you for your support.
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Winston Churchill wore this shirt when giving his famous speech. Bill Gates wore this shirt when he dreamed up Microsoft. Bezos wore this shirt when he dreamed up Amazon. Michael Jordan wore this shirt under this Bulls Jersey. You get the point. This shirt is the catalyst for great leadership decisions. We could all use help in that area of life right now. Buy the shirt. Find the Eddy. and thank you for your support.
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Leading: Same Principles. Different Challenges.
We are offering three free webinar to leaders needing to rest, hustle and grind in a way that helps them love life at work and love life after work.
We can call it whatever we want.
Leading change.
Leading in times of crisis.
Leading during a pandemic.
Leading in times of growth.
Leading great teams.
Leading dysfunctional teams.
Leading digital teams.
Leading collaborative teams.
We’ve been leading teams and developing leaders for a combined 30+ years at Insight Leadership Group and we’ve picked up on a few things leading through and consulting through mergers and acquisitions, mass layoffs, growing teams, etc…
There are some things that change and some that are always consistent in leadership.
The change is less about the skillet and more about the leaders heart. The changes are less about the leaders competency and more about the leaders ability to practice Emotional and Relational Intelligence in any circumstance.
That’s the hard part.
You are a leader and you know how to communicate. Knowing how to communicate effectively when you and your team are in a time of uncertainty is the challenge. It’s more about messaging from the heart and less about a phone call, zoom meeting or email. Your action step is to pull into the eddy and reset leading forward.
You are a leader and know you need to plan. Knowing how to plan effectively when you don’t know what tomorrow holds is the challenge. It’s more about leading towards a vision (Check out our Insight Action Guide) and less about leveraging Excel, Asana, or other project planning tools of your choice.
You are a leader and you know how to help people execute in an effective way. It’s not about clarifying expectations. It's more about inspiring the team to perform when everything is constantly changing at home and at work.
We have laid out three elements that we believe are crucial to being effective leaders in any situation and we are offering free zoom meetings to the first 99 who register for each event.
Step 1: Rest | Get your head and heart in the right place. Rest and pull into the eddy. We are going to offer a free webinar next week to help leaders pull into the eddy in the middle of the chaos. I think we are all in the chaos. Laura and I have been taking a few days to think, pray, and process through how we can provide value to you right now. We hope this helps. We appreciate you all and want to do what we can to support you and your teams in a meaningful way.
Session 1 | Find the Eddy | March 31 | 12:30 p.m.
Step Two: Hustle | We have no doubt you have been hustling since the news came. You are tired. That’s why we Rest first. When we are rested and less anxious we are more ready to communicate and work effectively. We are going to offer a free Zoom meeting after our Rest session with tangible reminders on how to leverage the Strength Deployment Inventory to make sure are communicating effectively with everyone during this time. If you haven’t taken the SDI 2.0 and you need some effective tools to help you leverage your strengths to [Rest. Hustle. Grind] right now, shoot us a message and we can get you set up with the assessment and a debrief coaching session.
Session 2 | Hustle | April 1 | 12:30 p.m.
Step Three: Grind | Often times when we are stressed, we see what is not happening, should be happening, and why it’s not happening…at least from our perspective. The Grind is about taking ownership and remaining agile. Everyone is practicing some form of agility right now in the middle of the uncertainty. We need to take ownership of the sub-cultures that may forming in this new arrangement. Intentionally getting focused on how to help your teams create and/or maintain the culture we want to be known for - now and when we get back to the office - is critical.
Session 3 | Grind | April 3 | 12:30 p.m.
Each session is limited to the first 99 participants. We look forward to seeing you online!
Day 3 | Working With Others While Working From Home Requires Flexibility, Kindness and Clarity.
Text, Slack, Microsoft Teams, Messenger, Zoom … We have so many ways to communicate from a distance. Words, sentences, abbr., emojis, CAPS, poor grammar… We have so many ways to make sure no one understands what we are saying.
Then we have to bring in the reality that we are all wired up differently, have different pressures, experience different challenges, and put it all together to work well with one another. Not just work well with one another, but set a new standard on how to work well with your team while getting great work done.
If you are having challenges or hoping to avoid some, below are a few tips that work when you are working from home as well as in the office. We leverage an amazing tool called Core Strengths 2.0 to help leaders and team communicate more effectively. It makes Emotional Intelligence applicable. Tim Scudder calls it Relationship Intelligence. If you want to make sure your team has the tools necessary to work well from home, give us a call and we can set up a series of Zoom debriefs to keep you on the right track to love life at work and life at home - even while you are working from there.
Here are three key practices we all need to implement while working from home:
Be Flexible | We have our way of working, communicating, and making decisions and everyone else has theirs. When you are working alone - obviously - work your way. When you need something from someone else - be flexible and help them work their way. If they are working their way - they will be leading from their strengths and I promise that produces better results.
Be Kind | We all have anxiety and stress. We are helping our kids with school at home. We are potty training kids. We are helping family members keep their hours by watching their kids. We are helping our clients. We are finding new rhythms to getting our work done. Here’s how we think about being kind at Insight Leadership. Lead with selfless ambition and value others. Get your work done and execute well. Don’t make it all about you when you when in reality, it’s not. While you execute, no matter the challenges, we should never feel the need to devalue others when we feel stressed or anxious. Be kind with your words. If you are misunderstood, apologize and work on improving your communication. This is where the Core Strengths tool makes a huge impact. For years I was misunderstood. That’s a nice way to put it. Other people would use 4 letter word descriptions about my behavior when I felt like I was in my “zone”… Now I know, and I can get work done and be kind all at the same time. I tell you what, if I can figure it out, you can too.
Be Clear | Clarity of expectations are crucial for success in any environment. Be clear about your expectations, clear about feedback, clear about what you can and can not do. Practice communicating in a way that others understand, not just in a way that you understand. If you continually feel misunderstood, give us a call and we will give you the tools be clear, kind and flexible so you can love working and love life after work.
Take a step back, and breathe. Take a look in the mirror and remind yourself that you are a great leader who is facing trying times. Center yourself in the core belief that you can lead with flexibility, kindness and clarity while bringing out the best in your teams by understanding and leveraging their unique strengths.
Day 1 | Working From Home ... 5 Kids are present ...
How to work from home when everyone is home.
It’s day one. Monday. Working from home. I was all set to be productive. It’s 1:13 p.m. and my bride is potty training our 2.58 year old baby girl. Ezra did the 3 pages of homework and 20 minutes of reading assigned. Elliott is studiously working. Titus has wrapped up for the day and is installing new door knobs and locks on the house. Elizabeth, my niece, is now Spider-man and she has finished her school work as well. I’m trying to work. There are only five kids running around the house. No big deal.
There’s a book on my “soon to read” shelf: it’s called, “Deep Work.” It’s all about focusing. I might pick it up tonight since I can’t watch Duke and Arkansas make a run for the playoffs.
So the question is not only, “How do we collaborate well with our team from a distance?” but the question is also, “How do I focus?”
For today, let’s talk about how to focus.
Work From Home Tip 1: Interruptions are everywhere, embrace them and calm down.
Remember when you were interrupted at the office last week and you responded in a polite, fun, and curious way? We recommend a similar response at home. For some reason at home, we pretend we can’t be bothered because our work is super important. Here’s my thought: If we respond in a relationally healthy way, we won’t have as much conflict at home, therefore; easier to focus.
Work From Home Tip 2: Manage your priorities effectively with your team.
Know what has to get knocked out and don’t let the less urgent, less important tasks get in the way of the most important. Plan out your top priorities for the week. Be sure to set meetings or request what you need from others in a timely manner so you’re not inadvertently creating stress for them . Remember, they have 23 kids running around the house as well, with a significant other trying to work from home too. :)
Our Insight team is leveraging Microsoft Teams to collaborate and keep up with who is doing what. Thanks to Angela Lowther, COO of Hatcher Agency for showing us the ropes! Leverage the tools you have or take the time to learn some new online collaboration tools. Slowing down to figure out new work from home norms will help you work at a better and more effective pace sooner than later.
Work From Home Tip 3: Set schedules and fix them again.
Set schedules, see if they work. Set schedules again, see if they work. Do it again. Make sure the schedules work for you, your team, your spouse, and your kids. We have to be realistic that we aren’t typically going to have 4 consecutive hours of quiet. Set realistic expectations for schedules. When our current state of the union has reverted back to some kind of normalcy, I know that I want my team to be able to say, “My boss was considerate of the adjustment needed in this environment. He/She was effective while also valuing my contributions when my personal and professional lives were colliding”. We can imagine what the opposite reflection could look like. For example, right now my wife and sister-in-law are swapping potty training secrets…
Focus! Focus! Focus! Okay I’m back.
Embrace the interruptions and enjoy this season as much as you can.
Mange your priorities and communicate well with your team.
Set schedules and establish new norms.
Share your work from home tips with the community and let’s all help one another out!
For more work from home tips check out a great post from another leader who navigating the shifts and changes: https://www.mindgenius.com/homeworking-homeschooling-in-covid-19-by-brad-egeland/
Are My Great Ideas Getting In The Way of Success?
Sometimes great leaders drain their teams with new ideas. How do you make sure you are inspiring your team and not draining them? How do you work with a leader who doesn’t realize they are pushing everyone away?
Are they? Let’s find out.
Do you come up with ideas quickly and then take quick action?
Do you ask your team to take action on your ideas?
Do you look at current project’s status, profitability, and team capacity before asking the team to go down another road, or add to their plate?
Do you celebrate the success of the new projects getting completed or start new ones before old ones are complete?
You might see where this is going… This is a common theme that we often hear about and it’s typically communicated from two different perspectives.
Perspective 1 (The Leader With Awesome Ideas): I have an awesome team who adapts to change quickly and is willing to do what it takes. They are agile and keep working on new projects so we can be an innovative organization.
Perspective 2 (The Team Working With The Leader With Awesome Ideas): My CEO is good, that’s how we got here, but with with the growing organization I’m not sure who is going to last longer… them or me. They continually have new ideas that they get my team working on without taking into consideration the other projects and priorities of the team. We aren’t able to complete any meaningful work and move a project forward because we are constantly shifting gears based on the “latest idea.”
You might notice the perspectives are quite different… Here’s the deal. You need to realize your team is getting drained. They listen to you, respect your brilliance, and want to see everything succeed, but those LinkedIn recruitment messages are getting more enticing after each of these interactions with you.
Here’s a way to do a quick gut check:
Write down how many projects your teams are working on. I mean actually working on. You know - hours in the day are going towards project completion. We all know there is a difference between actual work and keeping the project on the task list to make sure they cover their butts during the next leadership meeting.
How many ideas are your team members working on and how many of them have a real completion date and profitability plan?
How often do ask your leaders (or their teams) to start something without first discussing or taking into consideration what other priorities they actively have from you or other parts of the organization?
Are your answers what you expected? Would your leaders come up with the same lists?
Let’s be honest. That might sting a little. It’s okay to have a gut check every now and then.
You are doing your best and working hard to be a great leader. You are connecting with team members, trying to stay innovative and bearing a large weight from the pressure you feel every day. You are doing what you are doing to make everything work.
With that…
Sometimes we move so quickly that we don’t take into account how our quick action impacts the workload of people we have the opportunity to work with.
Sometimes we move so quickly that we don’t take into account how our quick action impacts the motivation of the people we have the opportunity to work with.
Sometimes we move so quickly that we don’t take into account how our quick action impacts the overall retention of the people we have the opportunity to work with.
Sometimes we move so quickly that we don’t take into account how our quick action impacts the personal lives of the people we have the opportunity to work with.
Sometimes we get so excited about the idea that we overlook the six months of work we are asking our teams to knock out, only to change direction again or hit pause before completion. It’s important to consider the unintended frustration that the team may be experiencing.
I get it - it’s tough - and I can relate. When I know where we should shift I get excited. I get pumped and I want my team to be pumped up too! Sometimes I’m so pumped I don’t realize they aren’t… and they aren’t telling me. (That’s a post for another day)
So… if you are sensing that maybe you are a leader with great ideas moving too quickly or pulling your team instead of leading them, what can you do?
Here are some thoughts:
1) Take 15 minutes to circulate your new idea with your team leads to get their perspective. Try to lead in this area without pulling them or pushing them. If getting buy-in takes two, 15-minute meetings, I promise a team with buy-in is more creative, productive, and efficient than a team feeling forced.
2) Kick off a “Skunkworks” team for new ideas. Make it a part of your succession planning program to give up-and-coming leaders opportunities to work on impactful projects that offer growth for them both personally and professionally.
3) Layer your new ideas into an existing project/workload plan to help manage the capacity of the team. Sometimes this can highlight a lack of resources or perhaps offer an opportunity for you to re-prioritize initiatives. Leverage the Insight Planning Tool to help every leader and team understand where to focus, how their contributions will add value, how to keep the project profitable and how the project delivers on your organization’s vision. Message us for more info.
How have you been able to stay innovative and nimble while also keeping your team focused and motivated and your organization profitable?
Frequently Asked Questions
Are you trying to find out where to start? We have a shortlist of frequently asked questions to jump-start your leadership development journey.
WHO DOES INSIGHT LEADERSHIP WORK WITH?
We have been in the people and organizational development business for quite a while. Our approach works with small, mid-size, and fortune 500 leaders, teams and organizations. We have worked with healthcare organizations, architecture firms, banking, law firms, publishing groups, engineers, tech gurus, service industry pros, retail, and CPG companies to name a few.
DO YOU ONLY DO EXECUTIVE DEVELOPMENT OR CAN YOU WORK WITH MANAGERS?
We tailor our sessions to meet the needs of the audience. We serve leaders at all levels in organizations of various sizes. Our 201 Performance Management Product is a great tool for managers as well as the SDI 2.0 Inventory to help managers learn to leverage their strengths to become more effective people leaders.
HOW DO WE KNOW WHAT TO FOCUS ON?
Well … it depends. Many clients take advantage of our Cultural Health Assessment to help guide the creation of a strategic talent development plan. We then focus on what the data and interviews reveal to develop a targeted approach.
DO WE NEED TO PURCHASE THE SDI 2.0 FOR EVERY SESSION?
Yes and No. We can deliver great content to your team without the SDI 2.0. However, the Strength Deployment Inventory helps you and your team gain a strong common language, self-awareness and an understanding of your team that truly makes a big difference in the post-training results.
WHAT MAKES THE SDI 2.0 Assessment MORE EFFECTIVE THAN OTHERS?
We have used DiSC, Myers Briggs, Strengths Finders, Birkman, Colors, Hogan, and now the Enneagram. We keep leveraging the SDI 2.0 because we have found it to be a validated tool that truly helps leaders, teams, and organizations improve quickly. The SDI 2.0 measures how you lead when things are going well and how you lead in conflict. Then it layers on our strengths and overdone strengths in a way that the other tools don’t. The SDI helps leaders sell, lead through change, manage, drive a healthy culture, and improve relationships at work and at home. That’s why we choose to continue using it! Many leaders say, “all assessments are basically the same”. We used to say the same thing. Anytime our clients use the SDI 2.0 or they immediately see the difference.
WHAT MAKES YOUR TRAINING DIFFERENT THAN OTHERS?
Laura and I have been developing leaders for over 30 years. We bring our expertise to each session. We walk you through a process to accomplish your goals. We don’t walk you through a canned program and pretend to solve all of your problems. We typically co-facilitate to make sure we can help you navigate anything you need in the moment while providing you a fun, engaging and interactive experience.
4 Tips For Leading Under Pressure
4 Tips For Leading Under Pressure
Leading Under Pressure
One of my greatest fears is operating an Instapot. I love the tool, the quick results, etc ... , but when Meg (my wife) asks me to check the Instapot, I start looking for the vacuum or anything else to avoid having to use that intimidating device. There is a ridiculous amount of pressure and if the pressure isn't managed properly it can make a very dangerous mess.
When we are leading under pressure if we don't navigate it well (and properly) we can make a dangerous mess. Our decisions as leaders impact the lives of the people we are fortunate enough to support. Sometimes the weight becomes painful. I love the quote from Max Depree - "Leaders don't inflict pain, they bear the pain." I'll tell you what - bearing pain can be intense and if we aren't careful we will inflict more pain than we were bearing.
So how do we lead under pressure and not run for the vacuum? During the past few months here's what I'm learning.
1) Never lead alone. Lean on the leaders in and/or out of your organization. Here's what that means. Before sending pivotal communication to your leaders and/or your organization, let your coach or trusted advisors review it. Yes - it's on you, but no, you don't have to go it alone. Sometimes you receive affirmation that helps you sleep and sometimes you receive coaching that helps you sleep. Either way, it's good.
2) Slow down and you will go faster. If you make the right decision in the right way, you will head down the right path. Don't make every decision you think of. Don't send every response that pops into your mind right away. Don't get caught sprinting at the beginning of the half-marathon, you won't make it. Remember the big picture and slow down so you can go faster longer.
3) Commit. You've gotten feedback from trusted advisors and have thought through the decisions that needed to be made. Now it's time to commit. Commit to hitting start on that Instapot. The pressure may build during the execution, however you've taken the right steps to ensure the end product is what will drive you forward to success. When the pressure is on you, you can't just wait and see.
4) Trust your people. Communicate openly and honestly with your team about the decision and direction you're taking. If you have been leading well, everyone you need is in your corner. You are not alone. Let them share in the process as much as possible across all levels. When you need them the most they will show up for you.
Let me give you an example of how this might translate into a real work scenario. You have a leader with a lot of great ideas and she's a great person. One that you would definitely enjoy a glass of wine and Instapot meal with. She trusts her team can do anything and that they are flexible and understand her intentions. Because of this, she shares her ideas freely and expects the team to jump in and deliver without a lot of clear direction. When the team has questions, the answers are sparse, if available at all. The team tries their best and when they come across obstacles that prevent forward movement, the leader throws out another idea. You can imagine the personal and professional conflict this might create for the group. Being a good person is a great start, getting the team involved is important for ultimate buy-in. However, in this common scenario, the important aspects of slowing down to go faster and committing were absent.
Here’s the deal. We will all screw up. We won’t get it right all the time. However, if we try to follow these four steps while leading under pressure we will get it right more often than not. You’ve got this. If you get stuck or need some help, just give us a call.
What has helped you lead well under pressure?
January 2020 Joke Answer
Yep - You are intrigued!
We aren’t going to waste your time. Here’s the answer.
Joke Answer:
A laughing stock! (Now that’s humerus)
Get it … That’s three for one!
Have an incredible day.
Rest and Reset
Find Rest. Real Rest. Not just a day off, but the kind of rest that decreases your heart rate and lessens your anxiety.
We all want to rest, but many times we forget how. Taking a day off doesn’t change our heart rate. Delegating a task doesn’t always decrease our anxiety. How can we find rest, real rest and actually reset?
At Insight Leadership Group we talk about “Finding the Eddy”. An eddy is a section of the river where the current shifts, forming a small pool of water in which you can “rest”. While on the river you can either find the eddy or start slamming into the rocks when you are tired. It’s the same at work. We can let the hustle and grind lead to exhaustion and frustration or pull into eddy to reset. We reset by remembering who we are, where we are going, how we are going to get there, and who we are going with.
This Insight Guide is not meant to be completed in a day. It’s a process and it should challenge you. Work the process and share it with your close friends or coach and get back on track to being the leader you want to be.
As always - if you need anything, don’t hesitate to reach out.
Leadership, Communication and Team Building Training
How do you know which leadership training session to focus on? Should you use the SDI 2.0 Assessment? Do we need the Cultural Health Assessment to know where to start and how to make an impact? Here is a list of the leadership and teambuilding sessions we have offered our clients over the past few years.
Sometimes the first question we receive from potential clients is: “What kind of leadership training do you offer?”. Leadership, Management, Communication, Emotional Intelligence …? The answer is yes, yes, yes …
The follow-up question is usually, “What would you recommend?”. I feel like a bad salesman with my response because I don’t always have a good answer. You see, we can’t recommend something to you without knowing what you need, but I do know that we can help you with your needs!
The third question is typical, “Do you have any assessments you use for training?”. We use the SDI 2.0 for executive coaching and to make each session and program customized to all participants. We do facilitate training without the SDI 2.0, however, the SDI 2.0 does bring an incredible layer of personalization and depth for long term development to each session.
With that extra-long introduction, below is a list of leadership, communication, and team-building sessions we have offered over the past few years. It is not all-inclusive by any means, and we regularly create custom programs as requested.
Leadership Training
Lead With Emotional Intelligence
Effective Networking For People Who Hate Networking
The Art of Challenging Conversations
The Art and Science of Navigating Conflict
The Art of Relational & Results-Focused Leadership
Insight Team Building
Customer Service 2.0
201 Performance Management
Nailed It! Presentation Training
Leading and Navigating Change
Navigating Organizational Conflict
Leading With Your Strengths
Experiential Add-On Options
Rock Climbing
Axe Throwing
Escape Room
Build-A-Bike
Top Golf
Leadership programs
Arkansas Business Executive Leadership Academy
Build Your Foundation
Build Your Culture
Build Your Endurance
Build Your Pipeline
Build Your Future
Rest.Hustle.Grind.
The Rest | Vision, Strategy, Values
The Hustle | Communication and Execution
The Grind | Ownership and Agility
201 Performance Management Certification
201 Performance Management 2.0
201 Performance Coaching
201 Performance Next Level Coaching
Give us a call to talk through which sessions and programs would meet your specific needs!
Assessments
The Conundrum of Leading With Humility
Leading with humility doesn’t always seem like it’s the quickest to success. Explore the challenge of leading with humility and getting your results.
Have you ever walked into a restaurant and seen a couple that causes you to do a double take? You ask yourself, “How did he ever get the chance to marry her?” You aren't being mean; it just doesn't make sense. It goes against everything you learned and experienced in school. Yet, there they are, in a healthy relationship.
That is how many view humility and leadership. The thought of humility blended with corporate success doesn't make any sense. How can you succeed if you put others first? How can you win if you look out for the interests of others? How can you dominate the market if you care about something other than the bottom line?
The answer rests in understanding humility. As C.S. Lewis writes, “Humility isn't about thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.”
A common view is that the opposite of humility is pride. Many argue that pride is a symptom of insecurity. When we lead through insecurity, we are actually puffing ourselves up and losing our humility. Our leadership becomes filled with trying to obtain or maintain power and control. Obviously we want to be authentic leaders, but we can’t be authentic without humility. And part of that means being secure in ourselves – so much so that we give more to others.
When you lead with humility, some might look at you and wonder how you will continue to be influential with great results. Some might look at you and wonder why you don’t tear people down in public, they might wonder why you don’t speak first in the meeting, they might look at you and wonder why you have so many coffee meetings. But you just have selfless ambition and value others. Nothing gets in the way of your results, but you don’t devalue people in your pursuit of the result.
Here is what this looks like in the office:
When you see someone struggling, help them instead of watching them drown.
If your idea is not the best idea, use your influence to promote the best idea.
If your idea is the best idea, work to see things from the team’s perspective as well.
Give credit to others instead of yourself.
Value everyone, not just the people who can promote you.
What have you done to be an authentic leader? Share your thoughts!
Performance Management | The 201° Story
It was the summer of 2019. Our family was officially growing from 3 boys to 3 boys and little girl. So our house size needed to grow as well. We found the perfect house in the woods. Sure … it had what Meg needed inside, but it also has what I need outside. A massive, custom-built, Texas-style smoker.
Okay. Here’s how I fed my family and friends all summer. Here’s when it clicked.
Great management is like smoking a pork shoulder. Don’t roll your eyes - get ready to go eat and become a better manager. Management is not just telling people what to do and making sure it’s done. Management should truly be helping your people achieve their fullest potential and then celebrating when it happens! That doesn’t happen organically, naturally or easily. It takes a process. (just like it takes a process to get to 201°!)
Step 1 | Preparation
The Food: Preparation is key. The right cut of meat, the right spices, the right temp on the fire. If you don’t prepare, there’s a good chance you won’t enjoy the end result.
The Backyard Smoker
The Manager: Onboarding the team member properly makes a drastic impact on the success of that team member. Build a relationship with them, find their strengths, discover their communication style and bring clarity to how they can succeed. We leverage the SDI 2.0 to help shorten the learning curve in new relationships and enhance those that already exist.
Step 2 | Maintain Consistency
The Food: The pork shoulder is on the grate. It’s cooking. There are three responsibilities I have during this step of the process.
a) Monitor the smoker temperature
b) Monitor the meat temperature
c) Continue to add the proper amount of logs to the fire to maintain the temperature
The goal is consistency. It takes effort, checking, knowing the right size of the log to put in the fire box. The meat can keep improving with consistency.
The Manager: Maintaining a consistently healthy work environment is key to developing a direct report to reach their potential. Our check-in process helps the team member take ownership of their development and gives you the opportunity to provide steady feedback so they can keep improving. The goal is growth and moving towards 201°. If you don’t keep the fire going or if you let it go for too long the temp can drop. That’s when you need to lean in even more to get back on track.
Step 3 | The Wrap
Time To Wrap!
The Food: The pork is edible at 145°, but it would be horrible. It’s like giving a direct report a task and they complete it, but they do such a bad job that you will never ask them to do it again. Well - that could be on you for asking them too soon. (maybe). Back to the food. When the pork shoulder reaches 180° you pull it out and wrap it in foil. The foil increases the temp faster and gets it to 201° in half the time. If you wrap too soon the pork can cook but will lose out on the flavor and burnt ends. You have to do the wrap at the right time, which is clear to you since you are checking it on a regular basis to maintain consistency.
The Manager: When the team member is ready for next-level coaching you need to provide it. You have been maintaining consistency and development for them, but you and I both know that some comments they need to hear they won’t hear until they are ready. We don’t want to break them, we want to develop them. Picture a team member at 180° and you are almost to 201°. It’s time to have a conversation about their growth, development and how they can hit the next level. Then you maintain consistency at a faster pace to help them get there.
Step 4 | The Celebration and Rest
The Food: When the temperature gauge on the meat hits 201° it’s a party for all. Hard work is going to pay off soon. You pull the pork shoulder off gently because it’s falling apart already. After you pull it off the smoker it’s time to let it rest for an hour. It’s still cooking. It’s 201° degrees! Let it rest for an hour and finish prepping the rest of the meal. If you don’t let it rest you will not experience the full potential of what you spent so much time working on.
The Manager: When the team member pushes through a challenging project with success and hits 201° you celebrate! When we Hustle and Grind we need to remember to Rest! If we don’t give them a moment to rest we will miss out on the team member truly hitting their full potential.
Well … that’s the 201° Performance Management Story. It’s time for you to experience your own 201° stories. Give us a shout to bring 201° to you soon.
4 Reasons You Need A Presentation Coach
We have 4 Reasons You Might Need A Presentation Coach. Don’t leave your influence to chance, let’s make sure you get the point across!
4 Reasons you need a presentation coach
Could Christian Pulisic have scored a hat trick in the premier league without coaching?
Could the Pioneer Woman have been able to make southern food great without coaching?
Could Steph Curry have defied the odds without coaching?
Anyone who has done something great has had someone in their corner helping them and guiding them along the way. If you are preparing for a career impacting presentation or speech, you might need a coach in our corner.
Here are four ways to know you need to call us:
1) You started preparing for your speech with a PowerPoint.
Listen - how many influential presentations have you heard with a death by PowerPoint presentation? We want people to remember you and your message - not your slides.
2) You can’t share a story without ummmsss and ahhhs ..
You can be great, but if you have a great amount of filler words and noises you won’t be great today. Just like you are distracted by filler noise - so will be your audience. Let us help you nail your presentation so your audience will know your message versus your filler word of choice. ummk.
3) You can’t open up and grab your audience.
You’ve seen it happen a million times. The speaker starts talking and you start checking email. You don’t want to be the speaker that gives everyone a chance to catch up on work they are “missing”. You want to be the speaker that causes people to remember your message and forget about their calendars.
4) You have friends that say you are great.
You are awesome. We know that. However, if you have friends who are not telling you how to improve your speaking, they can’t be trusted to guide you towards delivering an influential presentation.
Do they check your:
Content for flow, timing, and impact?
Body language?
Hand motions?
Pacing?
Storytelling?
Vocal variety?
Transitions?
Listen - we all have great friends, but if I’m going into a career impacting presentation, I want my friends in my corner and a coach who is guiding me towards the win.
Give us a call if you are ready to advance your ability to deliver a presentation to your fullest potential!